Article by Shahida Arabi: “Your Brain on Love, Sex, and the Narcissist: The Addiction to Bonding with Our Abusers”

I want to recommend another interesting and informative article by Shahida Arabi (who wrote What Abuse Survivors Don’t Know: 10 Life-Changing Truths, which I posted a while back): Your Brain on Love, Sex, and the Narcissist: The Addiction to Bonding with Our Abusers Many survivors of narcissistic abuse are confounded by the addiction they feel …

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Black Monday

The following is a guest post from Kira Love Flores of www.HeartsHealing.com. Kira is a survivor of therapist abuse who has her own October story to tell. (Please note: Kira’s “T” and my “Dr. T” are two completely different people. ~Kristi) * * * Anniversaries… dark anniversaries… October is a big month for me, especially …

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Blindsided

I got blindsided today. On Sunday mornings I go to a freestyle, family-oriented dance jam. I have been going for several years now, and I enjoy dancing to the wide variety of music (which is deejayed) and connecting with people of all ages. It’s a wonderful community and has been a lifesaver to me during …

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But, What If He Married Her?…

A few months ago, a family member suggested that if a therapist married the patient he was having sex with, well, wouldn’t that make it better? It was all I could do to keep from screaming. I think I managed to get out a slightly strangled “No! Oh my God, no!” before my defense mechanisms …

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Aftermath (or The Joys of PTSD)

Within 24 hours of receiving my first wake-up call (Good morning, Kristi. I’m calling to inform you that you’ve been physically, psychologically and spiritually desecrated for the past five years. Have a nice day!), I freaked out. Imagine what it would be like if someone told you that everything you believed about the past several …

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Don’t Call It Consent: Being Groomed for Sex

Consent requires that a person have all the necessary information to make a decision and the power to choose and have that choice respected by others. The possibility of authentic consent rests upon equality of power in a relationship. Consent should never be confused with submitting, going along, or acquiescing. ~ Marie M. Fortune SEXUAL …

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