A Success in New York! Lawmakers Pass Bill to Close Therapist Sex Abuse Loophole

Yes! Check it out on NBC New York: After I-Team Investigation, Lawmakers Pass Bill to Close Therapist Sex Abuse Loophole Law would make reporting of statutory rape mandatory for therapists and mental health counselors By Chris Glorioso and Tom Burke Thursday, Jun 21, 2012 The New York State Legislature has passed a bill that would …

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Sex with the Therapist – The Need to Feel Whole

In my last post I wrote about what it was like to have sex with Dr. T. (A truly delightful subject!) Our sexual involvement spanned four and a half years and had a profound impact on me emotionally, physically, even spiritually. As much as I’d convinced myself that I was doing it for him, the …

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Sex with the Therapist — My Experience

I’m currently in the process of revising the version of My Story (about my experience with Dr. T) that’s published on the site. I’ve been meaning to do this for a while (and have been putting it off for just as long), but I finally decided to dig in and get it over with. The …

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Why We Stay: How Childhood Loss, Abandonment and Neglect Can Make It Hard to Leave an Abusive Therapist

There is one question victims of therapist abuse dread perhaps more than any other: “Why didn’t you just leave?” Of course, this question isn’t specific to victims of therapist abuse; it’s asked of anyone who’s spent a significant amount of time in an abusive relationship. I think we’re all guilty of at least thinking the …

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But, What If He Married Her?…

A few months ago, a family member suggested that if a therapist married the patient he was having sex with, well, wouldn’t that make it better? It was all I could do to keep from screaming. I think I managed to get out a slightly strangled “No! Oh my God, no!” before my defense mechanisms …

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How May I Serve Thee? Let Me Count The Ways

Imagine this: You’re at home, getting ready to do a massage. You don’t see clients at home that often and you don’t have a dedicated space, so you’ve got your massage table set up in the dining room, as usual. The heater’s on, since your place tends to be a bit on the cool side, …

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Don’t Call It Consent: Being Groomed for Sex

Consent requires that a person have all the necessary information to make a decision and the power to choose and have that choice respected by others. The possibility of authentic consent rests upon equality of power in a relationship. Consent should never be confused with submitting, going along, or acquiescing. ~ Marie M. Fortune SEXUAL …

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Blogging About Consent (The Challenge)

For much of the past week, even longer really, I have been trying to draft a post on the topic of consent. As in why there can be no real consent for sex between a therapist and a patient. No small task, that. But for some reason I felt compelled to take it on. At …

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But I Don’t Want to Be a Victim…

Like every victim of therapist abuse, I have wondered whether I was in some way responsible for what happened. Even after almost four years of recovery work and having at least five therapists tell me that this was not my fault, I still have my occasional doubts. I do now understand that I showed up …

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On Telling

Telling was a scary thing. As someone freshly out of an abusive, highly manipulative situation, I needed an extraordinary amount of validation. Here’s what you have to keep in mind: I didn’t know that I was being abused and exploited until someone told me—afterward. I had basically been in an altered state (I think of …

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